Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Short Timers

I've been pretty busy lately, running through to-do lists like it's going out of style.

I've been trying to eat up the food in the fridge and the pantry, go through papers and clean out clutter, dot all the Is and cross the Ts.

We'll be moving soon and there are so many things that I want to accomplish here before we do, but then I also have to think ahead to where we're going.

It feels like just when I'm starting to get things figured out, it's time to go.

But that's life in the military, right?

I started calling prospective preschools a while ago and then stopped. For a few reasons.

1. People don't get back to me with promised info.
2. My phone calls don't get returned.
3. I have to continue to live life here.
4. It all gets to be very draining.

and, most heavy on my mind...

4. I was blown away by the acceptable discrimination.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think that people who have don't have children with disabilities realize how disgusting it feels to have to call and ask schools, over and over and over again, if they will accept your child.

Because they're allowed to say no.

I mean, you could try and just show up and enroll your Little, but dealing with the shock (and maybe even horror) of the other person while they're standing in your face isn't exactly ideal either.

This part? Not so fun.

I figured that once I found the perfect school or program, I could then narrow down where we should live and start looking for places accordingly.

Months later, I am no closer to that goal than when I started.

So, in an act of ultimate denial, today, I hung pictures on the wall.

As if we're not going anywhere for a long, long time.

They look great up there though.

So I'm happy.

Baby steps.

I’ll come back to the hard stuff soon enough.


AZ Chapman said...

Evan though the same thing has not happend to me I know how u feel. Bulingame has a great program that is totaly inculsive plus i live in close by

Carrie said...

I have still not gotten over the reactions I got when I first went looking for daycare for my kid. I live in one of the most liberal cities in the US, and everybody's all about inclusion and access, but in reality it was not the case at all. I hope you have some better luck soon.

Cate said...

this makes me want to hurt someone. they'd be so lucky to have that girl in any school. effers.

Dwight said...

I thought for sure you were going to put up a picture of the hanging pictures!

krlr said...

I don't know where you're going but on the far, far reaches of metro St Louis, pratically rural America, there are two locations with inclusive care - care so awesome there's a waiting list of typical kids trying to get in. They're an early intervention provider too (though we still do our stuff at home). Not that you have to move here, but if rural MO has options... Also, when does public school take over? My girl transitions out of early intervention into the school district @ age 3 & the school offers after care for their special needs kids and will even bus them to different after care if you want. Is the transition older in CA? Last, my calls wouldn't be to the providers directly, call the local DS group/chapter, the local Y (they are AWESOME-LY inclusive), and always worth trying to chat up the local social worker (sorry, "service coordinator")on the off chance they'll express an opinion. Please let us know how it goes!

Lisa said...

sucks. been there on those same calls. acceptable, tolerable discrimination totally, freaking sucks.

krlr said...

I just realized my last comment sounded preachy - sorry! Point was I wouldn't have known about our awesome place in the middle of nowhere had it not been for a recommendation from our PT.