Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Multiple Choice

Say you find yourself in a position where you're having trouble conceiving a child. It happens to a lot of people and it's not easy. Emotionally and physically draining, to say the least.

You opt for IVF with a donor egg.

One day you find yourself pregnant. With twins! A boy and a girl. What could be better?

About four months in, you find some issues with the boy twin. He may have a heart defect. He may have Down syndrome.

Do you wonder what you would do?

Here's what they did: Wow.

It's not about abortion to me. Seriously. Regardless of my position, I feel such a huge loss here. It's like the parents missed it. The courts missed it. The newspaper missed it.

Parents of children with Ds don't miss it though. There's a big, fat issue here that isn't being addressed.

I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. This hurts.

9 comments:

Liz said...

Why or why did I read the comments? Ugh!

sheree said...

I hate this.

Lisa said...

Ugh. I know. It shook me...

Wendy P said...

This makes me so sad.

Kelly said...

Horrible and sad, ugh!

ks_kristi said...

Always insightful and informing us of the ugliness that goes on in the world of fertility.

This is why among many reasons I am forever grateful for playette and her Mom. If I was ever faced with such a choice I would feel very informed and honestly there wouldn’t be a choice in my mind.

I’d just be having twins and I would be able to handle all the Doctors. I couldn’t have said that three years ago…I’d have been terrified and maybe I’d have listened to those that are supposed to protect us.

To me it’s not about a woman’s choice it’s about a lack of education and playing on people’s fears.

Andrea said...

A few years ago, I may have missed it too..
thank you for posting this...you always find great in the news itmes to share!

Anonymous said...

you would think people having a hard time conceiving and willing to spend thousands of dollars for even the possibility of having a child would be ecstatic at the news of twins-no matter what the issues(ds, heart, etc). i guess they didnt really want kids bad enough-not unconditionally at least. sad.

Danielle said...

I'm speechless...