tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561933350396407754.post5585140537554477219..comments2024-01-25T15:37:56.089-05:00Comments on *Results Not Typical: Law and Order: SVUCrittlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08868628035597050680noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561933350396407754.post-33694982822011690572009-04-01T19:47:00.000-04:002009-04-01T19:47:00.000-04:00okay, reason #412 why I want to play with you in r...okay, reason #412 why I want to play with you in real life someday?<BR/><BR/>Characters are welcome.<BR/><BR/>Cracked me up!!<BR/><BR/>I think it's going to take a lot of training as the girls get older, about holding back & not hugging everyone. It's going to be repetitive, but necessary.<BR/><BR/>I did a post on that once, long time ago; how if I did my job right & well neither of my girls would ever become mothers. Here's hoping I'm up to the challenge, and able to protect them.<BR/><BR/>I love Shelley's handshake idea - that's so cute and polite, yet within appropriate boundaries!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04082807589185886275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561933350396407754.post-61092635853918273032009-03-30T12:18:00.000-04:002009-03-30T12:18:00.000-04:00so much to think about...We're obviously not t...so much to think about...<BR/><BR/>We're obviously not thinking about it much right now either, but I am glad you posted this because it definitely is something that needs to be addressed at some point. <BR/><BR/>I might have to go chack out that L&O episode now!shereehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16904593196654715011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561933350396407754.post-1918215018803520862009-03-30T11:00:00.000-04:002009-03-30T11:00:00.000-04:00That boundary thing is just so difficult. Since Ka...That boundary thing is just so difficult. Since Kayla was so tiny when she started PreK, everyone is always hugging on her! And Kayla is always climbing on the teachers and aides to snuggle with them! When she starts Kindy next year I'm going to make sure teaching boundaries are part of her IEP.datrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11780816487520416497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561933350396407754.post-11466864485283992012009-03-30T10:31:00.000-04:002009-03-30T10:31:00.000-04:00Our children with Ds are boys, so it's a little di...Our children with Ds are boys, so it's a little different in some areas. But, the general idea of teaching them boundaries is the same. Everyone has different opinions on what to do, but for us, we have started now...at an early age, to teach them the difference in family and friends and friends and strangers. We do not let our boys hug and give affection to people outside of our family. We have a very strict rule about this and I do tell other people when the situation warrants. One of my boys in particular is indescrimenant with his affection. He will hug anyone...will go to anyone to be picked up, etc. He has no sense of boundaries at all. We do not allow this and tell people not to hug him and not to pick him up(he's 5 but the size of a 2-3 year old and everyone wants to hold him!). Our rule is "hugs are for family, handshakes are for friends" and we have taught our boys how to shake hands(which is also VERY cute when our Grifyn walks up to someone and holds out his hand...just as cute as a hug!). Our philosophy is that if it won't be cute when he's 20, it's not cute now. We MUST be this way because children with Ds don't discriminate between appropriate and not appropriate sitautions, people, etc. And, if we allow them to hug and kiss on everyone now, we are creating a bad habit that will be much harder to break as they get older(when it's no longer cute). <BR/>I have found that our therapists, friends, etc work very well with us on this. They work with us to teach our kids personal space issues and appropriate behaviors. I really believe that we have to start now to ensure that when they are older, they fully grasp the boundaries of relationships. <BR/>But, that's just my opinion! I know lots of people who say "there's no harm in hugging" or whatever. This is just what works for us....we focus on the big, long term picture.Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05854999345315958520noreply@blogger.com